Take Your Time. It’s Fine.

This morning I found myself writing (in pen, on paper) about the value of going slowly.

  • Influencers and ‘gurus’ are all shouting about how you can hustle and grind and be an overnight success.
  • GLP-1 ads (for non-medical reasons) promise quick weight loss.
  • AI is about how we (and the companies that own us) can be more ‘productive’ in less time.
  • Media articles celebrate the overnight sucess.

And what do we actually value? What are we actually impressed with? Enthralled by?

  • Cathedrals that took generations to build
  • Olympians who have been working towards ‘this moment’ since they were adorable tots, wobbling, Bambi-like, on frozen surfaces
  • Well-crafted novels that took months—or years—to write
  • Businesses that have endured for over 100 years
  • Fossils

Maybe it’s OK for you to take your time, today.

Too Many Voices

For when you want to Do All The Things…

Are you sick of people telling you what you should be doing? (I know I am!)

There are so many things a writer ‘could’ be doing (social media, courses, mentorships, retreats, conferences, residencies…)

And only one thing a writer must do: write.

It’s easy to be distracted by the former, to the detriment of the latter.

So Much Noise

After the New Year lull, we’re hading into a season where it seems everyone is inviting you to attend a writers’ conference, a course, a retreat, a summit…and you’re going to have to tune most of it out—along with the FOMO—if you want to do any writing.

In my experience, the best way to stay focused and keep making progress is to limit your options: find one group where you belong, one teacher or annual conference that works for you, and then tune out the rest…for now.

Signal vs Noise

How do you identify the places that work for you?

There’s some trial and error, but here are some questions you can use while you’re evaluating different options:

  • Does showing up for these events make me more productive or just aspire to be more productive?
  • Do I come away from these events exhausted or exhilarated?
  • Does belonging to this group fill me with a restless energy to create, or do I feel like showing up at the event/class/conference ticks the creativity box and I can do nothing until the next scheduled event?
  • Am I inspired to write more, by the people around me?
  • Do I often learn something new that I can put into practice in my own writing right now, or is the teaching at the wrong level/stage for me?

If the answers to these questions are ‘yes’, stick with those groups, conferences or teachers until you start to answer ‘no’ more often than not.

The Most Valuable Question

That last question (“Do I learn something that I can put into practice in my writing right now”) is the really important one.

You might like the people or the teacher, but find that being with them doesn’t make you more productive. This can happen if:

  • They’re operating at a different level of ambition than yours
  • They’re working at a different skill level from yours (either far behind where you are or so far ahead that it’s not inspiring, it’s discouraging.)

It’s Not A Race

There’s so much to learn…but only so much you need to know right now.

Find the spaces that solve the challenges you are facing today.

Make progress on the challenges that face you today. Pause to celebrate and really FEEL that progress.

The rest can wait.

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How To Feel Good

…instead of feeling guilty about ‘not-writing’.

A couple of things happened this week that I wanted to share with you, my dear writer friends.

Saying ‘No’ For The Right Reasons

Firstly, we’re gearing up for Critique Week here at StoryADay, which means some writers were saying ‘yes!’ to the opportunity to share their work and get feedback. 

And some writers said ‘no’.

They said ‘no’ for all kinds of reasons from: ‘Life is too busy’, to ‘I haven’t written anything for a while’, to ‘I can’t face it’. 

But some writers in the StoryADay community let me know they were saying ‘no’ for the best of reasons: because they were busy working on projects that don’t need feedback yet. 

(Hooray! More stories!)

There are so many opportunities out there to take classes, join groups, and generally get distracted by busy-work, that I’m celebrating those writers who said ‘not just now. I’m busy, writing!’

Piecing Together A Writing Life

In my eternal quest to help writers Actually Do The Thing (™), I scheduled a few extra ‘write with me’ sessions on Zoom for folks taking part in my Polish & Submit Sprint, leading up to Critique Week.

What happened next? 

All those little 25-minute ‘sprints’ added up to 543 words here, 200 words there, a climax written, and stories that had been languishing on a hard drive, actually being finished.

Me? I chipped away at a scene that has bothering me for an embarrassingly long time…and had a breakthrough that allowed me to finish and submit a piece I’m pleased with.

I, and every one of those other writers felt AWESOME, because we showed up for our writing, and made incremental, sometimes startling, progress.

Lesson learned: show up often, focus on finishing things, have the courage to lean on your community…and writing—and sometimes writing breakthroughs–will happen.

What will you do, this week, to give yourself the gift of time to focus on your writing?

Toot Your Own Horn

Let me share your successes

I know that many of you reading this have been around StoryADay-land for a long time and I want to hear what’s happened for you since you first took part.

…and I want to sing your praises.

Click here and leave a comment to tell me what’s happened, for you

If art is resistance and hope is contagious, let’s spend a minute sharing!

Why I’m Asking

I hear lots of stories from people about ways their writing life has changed since they first took part in StoryADay, but I don’t have them all written down.

When I go on podcasts, or am interviewed about StoryADay, it’s one of the first questions people ask me. I’d love to be able to quote you.

Hearing real stories from previous participants is a wonderful way to give frustrated writers the courage to sign up and join the challenge.

In addition, I would love to be able to point people to your stories that have been released, your other creative enterprises, your Substack or whatever you’d like to promote. Or not. Depending on your preference.

Some Examples

Here are some examples of things that have changed for people:

  • One writer, from Year 1, discovered that while she enjoyed writing, she loved art more. Since then I’ve seen her art grace the covers of magazines like Clarkesworld. Woohoo!
  • One writer uses the energy around StoryADay to work on their novels, and short stories that act as marketing freebies for those novels.
  • One discouraged writer rekindled her love of writing by spending a month on short stories, which encouraged her to send out her novel to agents again…and got a two-book deal!
  • One writer told me that they are more decisive and that their day job feels easier when they are writing.
  • Multiple writers have told me they’ve had their first publication from a story that started out as a StoryADay draft.
  • One writer realized that seeking publication wasn’t right for them at this stage and that they just want to enjoy writing their stories and up-leveling their skills, as a delightful break from the day job and other obligations.
  • Other writers have shared with me how showing up in the community (during the challenge and in the Superstars group) has been a lifeline in times of personal tragedy and upheaval.

Can you see how these stories would be more compelling with (as in fiction) some concrete details? I’d love to gather real, attributable stories of how your life has changed since you started showing up for your writing.

It doesn’t have to be a big, outward success. It might be an internal shift. I would still love to hear about it.

Share your story here

If you’d rather share a more personal story anonymously, you can email me (I bet you can guess my email address at storyaday.org) and tell me what’s changed for you. If you don’t want me to share it, even without your name attached, let me know. I’d still love to hear from you.