Stop trying to be ‘important’. Do this in your writing instead

Do you lead an unremarkable life? Great! Use that to connect with readers!

I spent a lot of time in Scotland this year, for family reasons. 

Any time I could, I went outside: to walk in the woods – swinging my arms carefully to avoid the tall, triangle-leafed stinging nettles or stooping to squeeze between my fingers the low-growing wild garlic.

On other days I was magnetically drawn to the coastline – making my way over the dunes or rocks, through the powdery, dry sand that shifts underfoot, to the glistening ridges of packed sand beyond the high-tide line of stranded bladderwort seaweed.

Crouch down above the high-tide line to dig your fingers into the sand and you’ll first feel the warm, granular top layer, that seems soft and forgiving, only to quickly encounter a harder layer of cool, damp sand, resisting you. Dig closer to the water line and the wet sand will flow in and close around your wrist, like it wants you to stay.  

The Writer’s Lens

Consider the last line of the previous paragraph. Is the landscape I wrote about friendly? Or is  its grip sinister? 

If this was a story, you’d have to keep reading to find out.

As a writer it’s almost impossible to write about any experience without it turning into a metaphor for something else. We can’t help ourselves.

And that’s exactly what I want you to remember this week.

Writing Is About Creating Connections

Sometimes “Writing” seems like an ambitious and complicated aspiration. 

Do I have anything important to say? Who am I to ask people to listen to my words? Who’s going to care about my characters’ trivial adventures when the whole world is [gestures vaguely] like this?!

It’s important to remember that most people don’t have big, grand adventures every day. Or often.

Even if your characters are getting into dramatic scrapes in worlds we’ll never visit, the moments when your readers connect with them, will be the ones we recognize from this life: the moments of connection; the flash of nostalgia; the smell of a long-lost comfort food.

If you want to connect with readers, give them tiny, everyday experiences they can relate to. The more specific, the better.

Stand The Test of Time

Jamaica Kincaid’s 1978 short story “Girl”, is a list of advice on how to be a woman. But not just any woman.

Through the details Kincaid choses, the reader is invited to make assumptions about who is speaking–from their gender to their age, to the geographical location: 

“Wash the white clothes on Monday and put them on the  stone heap…This is how you iron your father’s khaki shirt so that it doesn’t have a crease…this is how you grow okra–far from the house because okra tree harbors red ants…”

But it’s not just a list of instructions. They, along with the occasional editorial comment, add up to a larger story in which the older woman imparts warnings and advice and leaves the reader with questions: Does the speaker want the ‘girl’ to be the kind of ‘good girl’ who just does what people tell her? What exactly does the last line of the story mean?

It’s a short pieces that ignores all the ‘rules’ about story structure, and yet people are still sharing it, 43 years later. 

What We Notice

I believe “Girl”’s lasting popularity has a lot to do with the specificity of the details in this story. They are what make it stand out. They are what root it in a particular place and a particular voice.

So don’t feel you need to aim to create something grandiose, pregnant with “capital-M-Meaning’. 

Just focus on telling a story that feels like it’s happening somewhere specific, with moments your readers can enter. 

And you do that by focusing on the small, everyday, universal details:

  • The smell of the tea roses on the bush by the bench where you sat with someone you loved;
  • The slow shuffle down a hospital corridor, repeated so often, you’ve memorized the posters on the wall: “Join the Rock Choir: Thursday evenings in the parish hall” “We buy second-hand mobility devices–call for a quote”;
  • The texture of the sand on the beach, where the wind off the ocean whips away your tears before you have to explain them to anyone…

Don’t worry about what your ‘point’ is; what grand lesson readers must draw from your writing.

Focus on the tiny moments, the delicate sensations, that make up a life, and the story will emerge.

You’re a writer. 

Write first. 

Figure out what you’re trying to say, in the process.

Keep writing,

Julie

P. S. Need more practice turning everyday moments into key scenes in your stories? Consider the StoryAWeek newsletter: 52 weekly lessons and writing prompts. Find out more.

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To Do Now

  • It’s nto too late: join us in StoryADay November. Sign up here
  • Pick a number of days that you will participate. Post your goals here 
  • Leave a comment below, confessing your remaining fears (and let me reassure you)

And I’ll see you in the comments, next month!

Join The Fools’ Guild

Write with us this month, even if–especially if–it means you risk falling flat on your face….

Have you thought about joining the StoryADay Challenge but were too worried that you’d make a fool of yourself if you tried?

  1. What if your writing is bad? 
  2. What if you can’t write every day?
  3. What if you don’t finish your stories?
  4. What’s the point?
  5. What if you fail?

What is the point in setting yourself up for so many opportunities to fail?

OK, let’s dig in.

 1 – Let it be bad

I’m not saying you should aim to write terrible stories, but what I have learned, in 15+ years of taking on this challenge is this: a bad writing day has yet to kill me.

Don’t attempt to edit or polish what you write, the day you write it. Let it be ‘finished’, not ‘polished’.

The key is to show up even when you don’t want to. Sometimes that will result in a bad writing day. Sometimes it’ll result in a good writing day. And there’s really no way to know what kind of writing day you’re about to have. So show up.

Promise me that you won’t show your writing to anyone during the challenge. This allows you the freedom to write whatever comes. We must allow for the possibility that our writing will be imperfect, if we’re ever to get to a point where we write something halfway decent.

Success Secret: Use software like IAWriter or CalmlyWriter.com/online in ‘focus’ mode, which will ‘grey-out’ everything but the paragraph/sentence you are working on, so you’re not as tempted to edit as you go. Alternative: try dictating your story into your phone or a text-to-speech software (Google Docs has one and your phone’s Notes app probably does, too).

2 – Make Your Own Rules

I say ‘StoryADay’ – and if you can swing it, it will absolutely bust through all the lies you are telling yourself about how much/often you are able to come up with an idea, and reduce it to practice.

But…

I long ago discovered that I hate writing every day during this challenge.

Seriously. I always take a day off every week during the challenge. Because otherwise I’m miserable. I made it a personal rule (I take Sundays off).

Some years I have encouraged people to rewrite their own rules after every 7 days of writing, to take into account what they have learned. 

Make rules that will push you to write more than you would have otherwise. Make rules about what ‘every day’ looks like; about what ‘a story’ is; about what ‘finished’ means; and about how often you’re allowed to change the rules during the challenge (I do recommend that you only allow rules tweaks at the end of each week, or every other week…)

And if you are a person for whom streaks are extremely motivating, take that into consideration too. Commit to writing a story every day, even if some days that means you’re writing a 6 word story or 6000 words of stream-of-consciousness experimental babble.

Success Secret: Don’t go it alone. Come over to the blog each day and check in with the StoryADay community, in the blog comments, to let us know how it’s going.

3 – Practice, Don’t Chase Perfection

I always recommend trying to put some kind of ending on your story every day. It feels good. I trains your brain to push through the messy middle and not just chase the next shiny idea.

But that doesn’t mean the story needs to be complete or polished. There may be parts that don’t make sense, or that can be expanded, or where you have written “[history’s most romantic kiss goes here but I don’t feel like writing that today]”.

But do Future-You a favor and put some kind of ending on the story while it’s still ‘hot’, and you still have a sense of what you want it to be about.

(I come back to StoryADay Challenge drafts all the time when I’m looking for my next short story to polish and send out into the world. It really helps when there’s a substantial story there, no matter how imperfect!)

Success Secret: Use the energy of the community to keep you going, when the novelty has worn off. Come to the blog every day and comment on how your challenge is going, and cheer on the other people who are participating. Humans are social creatures (yes, even the introverts) and we’re not meant to do big things alone. So don’t try! Join us.

4 – 13 Reasons to Try

I’m asking you to write fast, messy drafts and move on every day. Why bother?

  • It proves to your inner editor that you can write whether or not you’re inspired when you sit down
  • It proves to you that you can write today, even if you felt like the world’s worst writer, yesterday
  • It makes you more decisive (in your everyday life as well as your writing). Writing is all about stage-managing every choice in your fictional world and for your characters. You have to get good at making decisions, and quickly!
  • It allows you to try out voice, personas, genres, forms and random ideas that you could never justify the time for, if every idea had to turn into a finished product. Sometimes these experimental wanderings reveal a new voice or genre that you can happily spend years with, after the challenge (it happens!).
  • It reminds you that you are a writer, that you have some aptitude with words, and that you deserve to make time in your life for writing. 
  • It reminds you of how it feels to be a writer (who is writing).
  • It makes you think deeply about issues and people. This means you are more compassionate and creative when it comes to problem-solving in the rest of your life.
  • You are easier to live with when you take some time to do the thing that makes you feel most like you. (Trust me. My husband just came home from his office and commented on how happy I seem, today. Guess what I’ve been doing this afternoon? Yup, writing!)
  • It gets you off social media, and gives you space to decide where your attention goes, today. 
  • It allows you to do some ‘deep work’, which changes the way your brain works, creating more space for brilliance.
  • It changes the way time flows for you. An hour spent writing in your story world feels very different from an hour spent scrolling short videos on random topics.
  • People love it when they hear you’re a writer (When new people meet me and my husband, what are they more excited about: the fact that he designed two drugs that are on the market and making people more healthy, or that I’m a writer? It’s ok, he’s not bitter…). It doesn’t matter if you have a best-selling book or if you’re ‘just a writer’. It inspires people to think about what they could be doing, if they would just let themselves…
  • You’ll regret it if you put it off, any longer. We don’t have an infinite amount of time in this existence. Let’s have some fun with what we have!

Success Secret: Celebrate every tiny triumph. Opened your laptop? Triumph! Read the prompt? Triumph! Wrote some words? Oh my goodness, you’re heroic.  Celebrate every step on the road to a prolific writing habit with a literal pat on your own back, a dance party in the kitchen, or anything else that makes you smile and triggers the reward-circuits in your brain. Do it immediately and often, and create those reward-pathways that make your brain whisper: hey, isn’t it time to get back to your writing?

5 – What if you don’t even try?

Failure is how we learn. 

If you can’t fail, you can’t get better, and you’ll spend your whole life envious of people who seem ‘luckier’ than you.

If you can’t face failing, you’re going to be stuck–and very sad–for the rest of your life. 

Failures provide useful data:

  • You might think that you love writing at midnight only to discover that your 52-year old self cannot work the way your 25-year old self did. Good data. Now you can work on finding a time that does work. Why not start experimenting, tomorrow?
  • You might think you love writing romance only to discover that you there’s a dark-thriller writer inside, longing to break free and slash things.
  • You might think that you can write 5,000 words every day because you did that one time, in a caffeine-fueled deadline-driven binge. Discovering that you can ‘only’ manage 300 words in a single session before your brain turns off, is useful, and allows you to schedule three 20-minute sessions tomorrow and be delighted by your 900 word story, instead of being disappointed you ‘only’ wrote a flash fiction piece.

Success Secret: Treat everything as an experiment.

So grab your lab coat from the coat rack, put on your safety specs, and join me in the Creativity Lab, for StoryADay November.

Adventure beckons.

 Discoveries await.

Join us!

Keep writing,

Julie

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To Do Now

  • Decide now, that you’ll join us in StoryADay November. Sign up here
  • Pick a number of days that you will participate. Post your goals here 
  • Leave a comment below, confessing your remaining fears (and let me reassure you)

And I’ll see you in the comments, next month!

P. S. Want more support, including daily writing sprints, monthly discussions, workshops, Critique Week and more? Consider joining us in the StoryADay Superstars. Find out more…

What’s So Bad About Escapism?

You are not a machine. Start living like a human, again.

Lately I’ve been binge-watching televisions series that I’ve watched before. And those shows are a, sci-fi and b, romance. And I’m not sorry.

And I don’t think you should be, either.

Whether you are taking time to write or to consume fiction or art or music…you are building a stronger, more resourceful and more resilient human–and how can that ever be anything but a good thing?

Time to Create

It’s October, and I bet you’ve noticed how busy the end of the year becomes. So much so that it can be hard to find time for creative activities that feed your soul…like your writing.

My invitation to you is to take some time today, to plan islands of calm, to make space for creation, over the next couple of months. 

StoryADay November

And if you don’t already have a plan, I’m going to suggest signing up for StoryADay November.

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Important Rules Alert:

My ‘rules’ for StoryADay are that you attempt to start and finish a story each day that you write, during the challenge. 

But I do encourage you to define what ‘each day’ means, for you. 

Writing a new story every single day of the month is tough. And it might be more than you need, to boost your creativity and to get you excited about writing again.

Set your own rules

Want to write three days a week? Five days? One? Great! Make that a rule. 

Then come to the site, pick a prompt from that week, that sparks your interest, and commit to finishing what you start that day, even if it’s bad, sketchy, has massive gaps, or feels like nonsense.

Most importantly, come back on the next day that you designated, and write a new story. 

The point is to keep going, even if you’re disappointed in (or excited about) the previous story. 

Build a stack of sketches, drafts, imperfect and incomplete stories, that you can draw on throughout the year, any time you want to write.

Improve Your Chances of Having a Good Writing Day

The only way to feel successful at this writing gig is to prove to yourself that all is NOT lost, if you had a bad writing day last time you sat down to write.

The more you write, the more you’ll discover how little relation there is between our effort and the quality of the output. Some days writing is easy and brilliant, some days you work really hard and hate what you wrote. 

Since we can’t predict how our writing day will go, the key is to keep writing anyway. 

More writing days is the ONLY way to guarantee more good writing days.

To Do Now

And I’ll see you in the comments, next month!

Keep writing,

Julie

P. S. Want more support, including daily writing sprints, monthly discussions, workshops, Critique Week and more? Consider joining us in the StoryADay Superstars. Find out more…

We Have Already Invented Time Travel

Beyond the Tree OR: Why you should include holidays in your stories…

September. 

That was when I saw the first ‘holiday’ themed products in my supermarket (and yes, I mean the twinkling-lights, snow-covered, jolly fat-man type holiday). There was cinnamon in the air, and the tinkle of jingle bells as I stomped past the ‘holiday earrings’ end-cap.

And I know I’ll start seeing Valentine’s displays before the tinsel is put away. 

As a consumer it drives me a little crazy. 

As a writer, it’s a great reminder: we can use our imaginations to time-travel, any time we want.

  • Holidays are part of the fabric of our lives
  • It pays to plan ahead if you’re creating something with a date-related theme! (Editors generally plan themed edition many, many months ahead.)

Now is a great time to think about writing a holiday story: when you’re thinking about the end of year holidays with fondness (but aren’t worn out from being in them yet). 

Or perhaps you’re looking ahead to next year, making plans for other upcoming holidays in other seasons.

Time travel to those events now and write a story about them, with the StoryADay  Holiday Stories workshop 

Why Include Holidays In Your Stories?

When it comes to end-of-year holidays my personal bias is towards Christmas & New Year, but there are so many other holidays to celebrate. Which will you choose?

Here’s why you should consider including a holiday in your story:

  • They are evergreen: you can recycle them every year! (Think about how rich Maria Carey has become from that one song…)
  • They are universal: no matter what culture we come from we all have special days where people come together, eat too much, face family members and friends they don’t really want to see, see people they haven’t seen for years, have fights, make up, fall in love, and get nostalgic. 
  • It’s an instant character-motivation-creator: around a holiday you always have some people who are sad, some people are excited, and some people who  are a little too into it…
  • If you are writing in a secondary or fantasy world, including this universal human experience in your story enriches the culture you’re creating. It feels real when your characters’ lives are complicated by ritual events they may have strong feelings about (even if it’s just to be frustrated at the interruption to their quest!)

If you want a little guidance, working though the possibilities, the StoryADay Holiday Story Workshop takes you through about some of those universal truths, and the particular must-have ingredients for whatever holiday you choose to write about. And it’s not jut theory. The workshop has built-in prompts that encourage you to pause and start writing the draft.

Use this workshop to get a headstart on next year’s Diwali, Purim, Juneteenth, Pizzamas, or Father’s Day story! (Editors love the ‘undersubscribed’ holidays. They always get loads of Mother’s Day story, but there’s a lot less competition for Arbor Day!). Or simply start writing–today, not ‘some day’!

Join the Discussion

What holidays do you celebrate, and which ones do you think have the richest seams of plot and character goodness, waiting to be mined? Leave a comment!

Ready to Write A Holiday Story, with guidance?

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  • Learn the successful elements of a holiday-themed story
  • Draft a story to fit holiday themes throughout the year..  

Failure Is Not Optional

What I learned about writing from the Phillies crashing out of the World Series race…

I’m a fan of the Philadelphia Phillies baseball team.

(Thank you for your condolences. Visiting hours will be between 6 and 8 pm)

One of the things I love about baseball is the fact that it’s not over until it’s over, when suddenly, nail-bitingly, it is.  (Like last night. Ugh.)

But as I’ve become more of a fan of the game, other lessons have become clear that I think we writers could do with pondering.

Failure is A Big Part Of The Game

Everyone says ‘you have to get lots of rejections to get published’, and that ‘shitty first drafts’ are part of the process, but I don’t think we give enough energy to learning to love those realities.

In baseball:

  • Elite players fail 70% of the time they step up to the plate.
  • Failing 75% of the time impresses nearly everyone..
  • The league’s worst hitter this year failed 80% of the chances he got (and hasn’t been fired).

These players keep striving even when the game is this mean to them.

Where’s The Hole I Can Crawl Into?

The Phillies’ 2025 World Series dreams ended on a rookie mistake—a horrifying, painful, embarrassing flub by a young pitcher, who made the wrong split-second decision.

In. Front. Of. Everyone.

Then he had to go out and talk to the press about it, afterwards.

I’m not sure I could have done that.

Of course, the media-trained young pitcher said all the right things like, “this sucks right now”, “get over this hump and keep pushing”.

City of Brotherly Grit

I hope he can find the resilience and courage to do that in the face of humiliation and doubt (and the famously vocal Philadelphia fans), even if he has to borrow that grit, occasionally, from the people around him.

If he can, I believe he will be extraordinary, as a player and as a human.

Selfishly, also I hope he succeeds because I need regular, visible reminders that this kind of determination is possible. I’d love him to be my model of how the pursuit of excellence requires courage and resilience and a willingness to carry on in the face of failure and even humiliation.

What It Takes

If that young player thrives, it’ll be down to:

  • The years of practice at failure and rebounding that already lie behind him 
  • Continuing to hone his skills, even as a professional
  • The support of a team (of family, friends, colleague, and coaches) who shepherded him through those early years and the team he has around him now who will help him get better and keep his chin up
  • The inner work he continues to do to master the discomfort of striving for excellence

Sounds like a good plan, in sports, life, and writing!

You’ve Got This

This week, if you want to:

Practice A Lot: consider Writing A Holiday Story, taking the 3-Day Challenge, or sign up for Writing Prompts & Lessons every week for a year

Work on Your Skills: Follow along with the StoryADay Challenge warm-up tasks

Rely On Your Team: consider joining our upcoming Critique Week (registration opens on Sunday). You’ll have a team of supportive, experienced players to help you see your story clearly and keep your chin up.

Work on Your Inner Game: consider booking a “Writer’s Therapy” coaching session with me.

Keep writing,

Julie

P. S. Have you signed up for the StoryADay November Challenge yet? Remember: set your own rules, and then use the community to help you stick to them!

Join The Discussion

Do you have a lot of resilience around your writing? Do you wish you had more? Do you ever (go on, admit it) resent the fact that things seem so hard? Leave a comment and let us know.

Ready to turn those sparks of wonder into finished stories?

StoryaDay 3-Day Challenge

Take the 3-Day Challenge and write three short stories this weekend!

Take the 3-Day Challenge — a short-story writing course you can finish this weekend. Go from “idea” to “The End” in three days, and give yourself the gift of an achievement you can celebrate.

StoryADay…November?

If your year started in a blaze of good intentions, and you find yourself here, facing the last quarter, thinking, oh no, I haven’t written nearly as much as I meant to…fear not.

This year, I’m re-running the StoryADay challenge during November.

And you’re invited.

Sign up Now

Remember, you make your own rules!

Don’t want to write and finish a story every day? Fine! 

You decide what ‘story’ means to you, and your own definition of ‘a day’.

The point is to write more than you would otherwise, and to use the energy of the challenge—and the community—to help you do that.

How it works:

  • Commit
  • Decide on your rules
  • Use the daily writing prompts (or don’t) to help you write more than you would otherwise.
  • Stop by the blog to leave a comment and let us know how’re getting on each day. #OldSchool

This year’s prompts included a peek inside these authors’ heads (and more)

headshots of the authors providing guest prompts for this year's challenge and the words: with writing prompts from P. Djèlí Clark, Mary Robinette Kowal, John Wiswell, Lori Ostlund, Kim Coleman Foote, Sasha Brown, R. S. A Garcia, Jennifer Hudak, Tim Waggoner, Rachel Bolton, Julia Elliot, Kai Lovelace, Anglea Sylvaine, Rich Larson, F. E. Choe,Emma Burnett , Patricia A. Jackson, Allegra Hyde,

P. Djèlí Clark, Mary Robinette Kowal, John Wiswell, Lori Ostlund, Kim Coleman Foote, Sasha Brown, R. S. A Garcia, Jennifer Hudak, Tim Waggoner, Rachel Bolton, Julia Elliot, Kai Lovelace, Anglea Sylvaine, Rich Larson, F. E. Choe, Emma Burnett , Patricia A. Jackson, Allegra Hyde, and more

Throughout this month I’ll be bringing you warm-up tasks—tiny tasks—that will help you prepare for a successful challenge. Sign up and I’ll even send them to your inbox every week.

Here’s the first week’s worth of warm-up tasks. 

Go at your own pace, but do go!

Tiny Tasks

Imagine Your Way To Success

Making The Challenge Work For You

Start Collecting Story Sparks

Writing Matters

Story Moods

Get Started on Settings

Brainstorming Characters Pt 1

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Refining Your Craft

Brainstorming Characters Pt 2

Personality Traits

Character Speech

Imagine Yourself, Succeeding

Face The Fear

Your Writer Identity

Triumph Over Doubt

The Power of Tiny Wins

Create A Bounce Back Plan

Make Your Rules

Engage With The World of Fiction

Writing The World You Want

Read A Story 

Fast-Draft a Practice Story

Repeat Your Successes, Learn from your Practice

Decide How To Log Your Progress

Set Up Your Log and Workspace

Ready, Set, Go!

Choose Your Challenge Vibe

Write A Warm Up Story

Commit & Join the Movement

DISCUSSION

Find any of them particularly helpful? Done something like this in the past? Share your tips with the community, below!

Keep writing,

Julie